The beliefs we hold are powerful, as they can create a beautiful life or keep our lives small and ordinary. Limiting beliefs are created in our childhood as a way for our egoic minds to deal with a situation that we may not have liked.  They prevent you from moving forward in an expansive direction, as they tend to come from fixed mindsets. But our beliefs should empower us to make our dreams come true.  

When we have limiting beliefs, we cause ourselves pain and suffering as we live our lives ruled by the ego, which plunges us into fearful states.   The egoic mind makes us think we aren’t good enough, as it disguises the fear that permeates our experiences.  We need to retake our power and overcome the negative influences of the ego’s life of fear. Understanding that the past is not an indication of the future, we can take responsibility to reframe our stories and learn to overcome our limiting beliefs.  Here is a comprehensive guide to help you through the process. 

1. The Truth is, Your Own Thoughts Cause You the Most Suffering 

Human suffering doesn’t discriminate.  We look at others whose lives seem so much better than our own.  This choice we made to compare ourselves to others causes us to suffer.  This thought, an action we willingly took, is self-inflicted grief.  But there is a difference between pain and suffering. 

Pain is an alarm system that the body uses to keep itself safe.  It modifies behavior while we heal from the injury.  For example, a child touches the hot stove and recoils his hand that is in pain, and he learns not to repeat the process.  The ego uses the same system, too, utilizing it on our emotions instead of the body.  When the child has his feelings hurt by the same kid at school, he learns to avoid that kid.

But as we have seen before, the ego overreacts and generalizes the situations.   So the child not only avoids the kid who hurt his feels but all his classmates because the ego has convinced him that all kids will hurt his feelings.  This example is a simple illustration of how our own thoughts cause our suffering.

2. You’re Good Enough Just as You Are

Do you think you are good enough just as you are, or do you keep comparing yourself to others?  Comparison; we all do it.  Our society is quick to examine everything and determine who is more worthy. Who has the newest smartphone?  How was she able to loose lose the last 10 pounds that I can’t?  Look how successful the new business she just started; where does she find the time? In our journals, we are quick to compare our talents, or lack thereof, with those who are so much more talented than we believe we could ever be.  So are you good enough?  How do you define your worthiness?

Let me clearly state right now that you are good enough because you were born a unique individual.  No one else on this planet is like you, so you really can’t compare yourself to anyone.  You may be similar to others.  Some may like to paint but not the way you paint.  We may like Sci-Fi movies, but we have different favorites.  You just being authentically you- is good enough.  No more, no less.  Your worthiness is not tied to your past or your future. You are good enough today, just as you are, you just need to change this limiting belief. Overcome your incorrect thinking about worth. 

3. There Must Be a Better Way than this Life of Fear

It took frustration with a life situation for me to realize that there had to be a better way of living than the life I had.  I was always fearful.  I was anxious about what might happen in the future and depressed about the past.  Fear was my way of life.  When I tried to sleep, the egoic voice in my head would stop telling me all the things I did wrong.  I was ashamed of my past, and I had learned that trying to talk about it caused me more ridicule from people who couldn’t understand.  The ego almost entirely squelched any part of my authentic self. 

So what was the change I needed to make in my life to no longer live in terror?  I had to choose to respond to all the situations in my life differently.  Instead of reacting from a place of fear, I had to respond from a place of love. There is a better way than living a life of fear.  Here is how you can overcome fearful living and end this limiting belief. 

4. How does Fear Disguise Itself in Your Life?

Fear is a normal part of life; it is a necessary human instinct.  This mechanism is designed to let us know that there is a dangerous situation that we need to deal with immediately. 

Nobody wants to admit to being afraid.  But sometimes we don’t recognize the disguises that fear wears in our lives.  Four forms of fear that show up in our lives regularly are anxiety, anger, depression, and doubt.

5. How I Improved My Angst with Alcohol

Like many of you, I am the child of an alcoholic, which means I was in a constant state of fear.  My mother had a difficult life being born in a native Indian village inside the Arctic Circle and given up for adoption at the age of 16 with her two younger sisters.  In 1961 uprooted from her sustenance living, she moved into the city and had electricity and running water for the first time.  By 1965 she was drinking when she met my father on his way to serve in Vietnam.  In the years after I was born until my parents divorced in 1976, I don’t have many memories of my mother that she didn’t have a glass of liquor nearby.  Here are three steps you can use to overcome your angst and begin to live fearlessly.     

6. Victim or Survivor- Do you Know the Difference?            

Are you a victim or a survivor?   Brokenness isn’t a part of who you are- it isn’t your authentic self.  Whether we see ourselves as a victim or a survivor, this self-image has a direct bearing on how our life will progress.  

As a victim, we become self-focused, we go inward and allow the suffering to grow.  We blame others for how we feel and believe people are trying to hurt us intentionally.  A victim, even years later, is still powerless.  Victimhood has dire consequences that must be outgrown.

Just because you survived an incredible hurt or betrayal doesn’t mean that you are a survivor.  An overcomer embraces life and doesn’t hide from it due to fear.  Victims feel helpless, whereas survivors have reclaimed their power and taken back control of their lives.  Through survivorship, we take responsibility for our choices and our feelings and consciously decide that we are no longer a victim.  Survivorship is a choice to heal. 

There is a distinct difference in whether you see yourself as a victim or a survivor, and choosing one is more effective in moving you forward then maintaining a limiting belief.    

7. How to Retake Your Power after Personal Suffering

When we are going through any pain or traumatic event, it’s usually hard to look at things from a different perspective. Yet when we do, relief comes.  The healing process is multifaceted and can take time, especially if we don’t take responsibility for our current actions and responses.  After a traumatic event, we are fearful.  To overcome fear, one needs to reclaim your power.  Here are three steps to empowerment after trauma. 

8. The Ego and How to Overcome its Negative Influence

I had a lengthy discussion concerning the ego with a fellow sexual abuse sufferer.  She viewed her ego as a protector that has kept her alive.  This woman saw herself as a victim, ashamed that the rape occurred, and still suffering decades after the incident.  A successful woman in her chosen career, happy in her marriage of over 35 years, a person whom you would assume had it all.  Yet, she has lived every day since she was raped, in a state of trepidation. 

I, on the other hand, saw the ego as the voice that kept me locked in a room, too fearful ever of wanting to leave.  I see myself as a survivor, proud that I have overcome the fear and feel that I can help others to do the same.  I’m successful and happily married for over 20 years.  But, I choose to take back my power and not live in a state of fear, a long time ago.  

Perspective is astonishing.  One view keeps you locked in living a troubled life, and the other lets you become your authentic self.  Your mindsets play a significant role in determining the realization of your dreams and your ability to overcome them.  The ego is always a negative influence.  Its job is to instill fear.  But, you can learn to master the destructive impact of this instinctual mechanism that is doing more harm than good. 

Here are three ways to overcome the ego, your limiting beliefs, and be your authentic self.         

9. Understanding the Fear of Separation

We all have within us the underlying fear of separation, which includes abandonment and rejection.  This universal dread comes from the human need to belong originally for survival purposes. But, in today’s society, the sense of belonging and connection with others is vital. 

We’ve all experienced different forms of rejection and loss of connection with others, and we don’t like how it feels, which compounds the fear within us.  We need to be wanted, respected, and valued by others.  The ego uses this angst in ways that can keep us separated instead of finding ways to move past to a place of unconditional love. 

My biggest fear is that everyone will abandon me.  It comes from physically being put out onto the street by my mother with my little sister at the age of eleven, 2000 miles away from home.  This event affected every part of my life for decades in unexpected ways. Yet this belief limits me.

We all create our own fears by listening to the egoic mind.  Therefore we all have the power to dissolve the distress too.  When we hear the authentic voice of the soul and are awaken to who we are, overcoming the egoic mind is a natural process. With the newly formed loving connections supporting us, we can help one another dare to overcome the universal fear of separation. 

10. Beyond the World of Duality to the Magic of Oneness

In this world of duality, humanity believes in opposites, that there are contrasts between two concepts like good and evil, peace and war, black and white.  This dualism is a human construct created by the mind to make order of the world around us.  As with many things created by the ego, it’s an illusion that creates separateness when, in reality, the soul knows that we are all one.  The oneness that I am referring to is the fearlessness and unity of being connected to Source. 

By being aware that all we desire is already within us as we are all connected to Source, we can experience the magic of oneness.  I recognize that this can be difficult to imagine total joy and peace where time doesn’t exist because we are eternal, but this place of unconditional love is something we have all glimpsed.  It’s the same place that we experience flow. Where time stands still, and we are feeling joy, and all is going effortlessly. 

Being awake to the truth of the dualist world allows you to be aware of the magic of oneness.  It’s no longer an issue of separatism which is a limiting belief, as we are one.  It’s no longer true that peace is elusive.  All we desire is within our grasp; we just have to choose unconditional love. Here’s how. 

11. Why the Past doesn’t need to be an Indication of the Future   

When you are a child of an alcoholic, you learn from a very young age, the signs to look for so that you aren’t in the line of fire when the next violent episode occurs. And the feared incident always happens.  Consequently, we become conditioned to react to these indications: stumbling, slurred words, angry tone. 

As we become adults, we begin to see evidence that because bad things have happened in the past doesn’t mean more bad things will happen.  Not every slurred speech or stumbling from another person will cause me harm.  Therefore, we can determine the past doesn’t have to repeat itself. 

Although this may take time for us to realize, it doesn’t have to. Although our past shapes us, the good news is, we aren’t bound to it. We can move past the difficulties of the past and into something far better.  The main reason we don’t have to repeat the past is that we can learn from it.   

12. How to Reframe our Story to Create a Better Life          

When we are going through any painful or traumatic event, it’s usually hard to look at things from a different perspective.  As time passes, we gain alternate viewpoints.  It’s through this reframing of our story that we create the change we desire in our lives. 

The stories we tell ourselves create our lives.  These versions of what we tell ourselves establish our identities and the kind of person that we think we are.  Out stories also give our lives meaning, help us to make sense of the world, and guide our actions, even from a young age.  This ability to gain perspective overtime is built into our human nature, if we are willing to alter our mindset.

We need to start paying attention to the stories that we tell ourselves and to others. The key is to remember that we’re the storytellers; therefore, we can view our stories in any way we deem. That is, we can reframe our stories so that they serve and support us instead of harming our lives.

After all, it’s not the impartial world that affects us, but how we characterize and understand the world. In other words, what matters isn’t what happened to us, but the stories we tell ourselves about what took place.  Reframing your story can help you create a better life.  By utilizing this tool, you are putting the negative stories you tell from a different perspective.    

13. Fact is, Genuine Love has no Recognition of Hierarchies

Being fearless by loving others doesn’t sound like it would be complicated.  We all want to be loved.  The ego does all kinds of crazy things to get others to love us.  But the fact is, love by its nature has no recognition of hierarchies.  What do I mean by this, love is love.  We have, as human beings, altered the meaning of what love is.  Over time we have accepted other people’s opinions of what love is and how we are to share it with others, as well as loving certain people more than we do others.  This hierarchy, or ranking, isn’t what love is supposed to be. 

There is an understanding that you are more familiar with certain people. Therefore, you will be more accustomed to their behavior and vice-versa, but that isn’t the full expression of what loving one another encompasses.  We all experience love differently.  We all have our way of expressing our love via our unique love language.  By sharing this warm feeling with another, we are letting them know they are special to us. 

The ego feels we are gifting a part of ourselves to them, but again, this is not the case.  We are freely choosing to love another.  It is a conscious choice that is given freely with no requirement that it be returned.  But the ego takes something pure and alters it to cause harm unless we wake up and see that love has no hierarchies. Universal love doesn’t recognize egoic made hierarchies of humanity.  Here is how to move from ego-based love to unconditional love of the soul.  

14. How to Live a Responsible Life

Who’s responsible for our lives? We are, of course. The ego is part of our mind whose job it is to protect us.  It was created to tell you to run if a tiger was chasing you.  But at some point, our ego took more control than it needed to, especially in this age where tigers aren’t attacking us.  Why is our egoic mind so fearful of our power, of giving us control?  If we step into our power and it releases control, then we are ultimately responsible for standing in that truth. 

One of my favorite quotes about fear comes from Marianne Williamson’s book, A Return to Love:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. 

Once we admit to ourselves that we are powerful and in control, then we are accountable and bound to that knowledge.  We can no longer hide behind rationalizations that we’re not good enough or that we don’t know what we want. We are phenomenal individuals, and we have to be responsible for this reality.  Wakening to your responsibility to yourself will bring forth changes in your life.  Reclaiming your responsibility for your life is the quickest way to change the world around you, and that’s why it’s so daunting. 

15. I am Not What Happened to me; I am What I Choose to Become

A lot has happened to each of us in our lives.  When we look back at our past, whether you’ve experienced trauma or not, what occurred has impacted us.  How these incidents have influenced our lives depends on how we responded to the events.   We’re not what happens to us.  Based on how we react to our experiences determines what we choose to become.  We have a say in how the events of our lives affect us.

How we respond to the happenings of our life depends on our mindsets and our belief system.  If we have a growth mindset, we look for the lesson we are to learn from the situation and a way to overcome whatever obstacle is in our way.  But through a fixed mindset, we tend to see this circumstance as proof of our continued failures. See the difference?  How we perceive the situation determines if it pushes us forward or keeps us stagnate.  But we are in control of our perceptions.  We can choose to reframe the story to one that raises us to become what we want.  Because, right now, we can choose to change. 

16. When Pain Shows up in Public, it’s in the Form of Anger

When we are hurt in public, when others are watching us, it rises out of us in the form of anger.  It’s the natural and automatic reaction the ego uses to deflect the pain.  Agony from feeling rejected, or threatened, or experiencing some form of loss.  The type of discomfort we feel doesn’t matter, but we know the pain is unpleasant.  Because the egoic mind doesn’t want to show vulnerability in public, it uses anger as the emotion which is safe to display to others. 

The anger that is displayed is usually directed at someone, even if the trigger wasn’t them.  (Even if the target is yourself.) The triggers to anger are always within us.  They are personal thoughts– assumptions we make, interpretations of events, assessments of comments made.  But these thoughts are taken by the egoic mind and turned into threats against you personally. 

Showing anger in public has become acceptable behavior as we defend ourselves or our position.  By changing the feeling of pain into something else, we feel better and less exposed, especially when others are watching our reaction. 

17. Welcome to the School of Unlearning

Children are amazing at the amount of information they consume.  They are hungry to learn as their minds are open to possibilities.  Unburdened with fear, these youngsters have no prejudices and no hate.  They are full of love and want ways to express that love.  Adults teach children to be fearful.  Parents close out possibilities because of their fears that it might harm the child.  In schools, kids learn that there are differences in people and that these variances determine how we treat others.  As authentic individuals, we now have to help our children, our friends, and ourselves to unlearn these harmful ways of thinking and outdated belief systems. 

Part of our personal experiences as we were growing up, and in our early adulthood, can cause us to form self-sabotaging behaviors.  Self-defense mechanisms that our egoic mind thought was beneficial are now ways that keep us from growing.  Other beliefs that made sense to us based on our previous experiences are now outdated, based on what we have learned by living.  We realize that what our elders thought was the truth for them isn’t the truth for us.  We need to unlearn things as we grow.  The need to let go of belief systems that no longer serve us is how we move forward with our lives while maintaining a peaceful coexistence with those around us. 

18. Without Attachment, Remarkably the Rast Dissolves

Feelings of want and desire to ideas, people, and things cause us to suffer.  We agonize over the thoughts we have because the circumstances we are in are not what we assumed they would be.  Or the person we want to love us doesn’t feel for us like we desire them to.  Or we find out that what we believed to be true when we were younger has been shown by our experiences to be false.  These things the ego connects to cause us to suffer.  Without our attachment to them, remarkably, the suffering dissolves. 

So when we detach from the things we cling to, we open ourselves up to the adventure of life and allow ease to enter since we are no longer fighting against what is.  This non-attachment is similar to the teaching of living in the world, but not of it.  But we are human, and the egoic mind is to anticipate what may happen so it can protect us. Our issue isn’t with expectations. It’s with our emotions when what we expected didn’t become a reality, and it upsets us. 

17. How to Accept Our Weaknesses for Personal Growth

Weaknesses are those areas of our lives the ego uses against us.  Our inner critic reminds us of those things we don’t do well.  But we aren’t all meant to be good at everything.  Our individual skill sets are unique and supposed to differ from others. 

I took business courses in college and had a minor in accounting.  I can keep my accounts balanced, determine profit and loss, but I am not good at doing my taxes.  I spent two years doing my taxes, and each year paid taxes after getting refunds most of my life. Obviously, this is a limitation in my skill set.  Could I learn how to do my taxes effectively, sure?  But is it the best use of my time when my soul wants me to write and coach others?  Probably not. 

So allowing my egoic mind to make me feel bad about myself is a waste of time and energy.  Especially when I can easily have someone who is excellent at taxes take care of them for me.  But many of us permit the ego to focus on areas where we don’t thrive—keeping us stuck and feeling negative about ourselves. When we know the areas where we don’t thrive, it keeps us from exerting energy ineffectually. 

18. Actually, Willpower is an Egoic Lie to Keep Us Stuck

The American Psychological Association defines willpower as the ability to resist short-term temptations to meet long-term goals.  But we also associate it with delaying gratification or controlling our behavior.  Some of us boast about how much strength of will we have, while others criticize ourselves for lack of willpower.  I think the ego uses our belief, whatever it is, about our ability to control our behaviors against us.  This way, we stay stuck instead of moving towards our dreams.   

We believe our ability to self-discipline is a crucial factor in how successful our lives can be.  But is it just an excuse for us to live a miserable life? If we don’t think we have the discipline to do something, it explains why we don’t do it.  And if we weren’t able to control our behaviors when we were younger, our ego reminds us we couldn’t do it in the past, so why do we think we can do it now? 

This idea of willpower, self-control, discipline, restraint all comes down to a simple question, what outcome do we want, and how much do we want it?  Do we want to get healthy and feel good, or do we want that piece of cheesecake we know will make us feel ill later? Do we want to write a book we know will help others, or do we want to veg in front of the television and do nothing?

19. Releasing Attachment By Forgiving Those Who Caused Our Pain

In my book, Raven Transcending Fear, I tell my story of childhood trauma.  The violence my mother started, allowed, and perpetuated devastated me for decades. The physical, mental, and emotional pain I endured was devastating.

As I stayed trapped in victimhood over the years, I allowed the anger, resentment, and bitterness to build within me.  What I didn’t realize was the rage within me did not affect my mother.  I didn’t even tell her I was furious with her.  So, all this negativity was building inside me and not being released.

The uneasiness I lived with each day kept me reliving the trauma repeatedly.  This living in the past caused me to spiral down into a depression.  And the longer I held onto my victimization story, the more attached I grew to the wrath building within me.

When I made the conscious decision to change my story from victim to survivor, the anger didn’t go away.  Instead, I pushed forward into anxiety, fear of the future.  Because I couldn’t trust my mother, my egoic mind kept warning me I also couldn’t trust others.  So it always scared me that the people I befriended would hurt me.

Then I had someone tell me I needed to forgive my mother for the pain she caused me to release the agony and move forward.  Forgive her?  Never!  What she did was unforgivable- I wouldn’t let her off the hook. She was to blame.  She deserves my judgment, not forgiveness.  

20. How To Challenge Yourself To Be Open-Minded For Growth

To be open-minded requires us to listen to others from a place of love and acceptance.  It’s the ability to contemplate differing views and opinions of others that challenge our own understandings without getting drawn into an emotionally charged argument.  Being receptive to new ideas, fresh perspectives, changing information shows our wiliness to challenge and adjust our beliefs.  Some we need to unlearn, relearn, or adjust. 

Being challenged doesn’t mean we change our opinion.  It means we will alter based on new understanding and alternative possibilities created in different situations.  Open-mindedness also means we can admit when we make a misstep and course-correct to recover from a negative situation. 

Close-minded people are emotionally attached to their opinions and beliefs.  They will argue their point and reject anything that challenges their view.  They are unwilling to learn any extra information that may show their understanding is outdated.   

Visionaries like Oprah Winfrey, Elon Musk, and Deepak Chopra exhibit open minds as they appreciate hearing about new and innovative ways that challenge their own thinking. This open-mindedness is why they are always moving forward in their personal lives and careers.  They admit when they are wrong and will course-correct as needed. 

And yet, many of us keep making the same missteps again and again. Many of us think we are open-minded, but in truth, we are more tied to our beliefs than our desire to learn.   

21. How to Overcome Conflict Before It Becomes More Hostile

The ego sees duality everywhere it looks.  This division causes differences of opinion, disagreements, and disputes.  Social conflicts can arise from our affiliations, beliefs, and our life experiences.  Knowing ways to overcome these interpersonal struggles effectively decreases stress, helps us work more efficiently, and allows for better communication and understanding.

The ability to resolve disputes through conflict resolution refers to how people work towards a solution to an issue they are approaching differently.  This situation has deteriorated where it needs to be dealt with as the parties are at odds and the circumstances are adversely affecting others.  The individuals are working towards agreeing on a middle ground where their side was heard. A path forward can be determined together. 

Are we allowing the egoic mind to determine how we approach a disagreement?  Are we out to win at all costs because our pride is on the line?  Or are we looking for the best solution to the situation at hand?  Suppose we are authentically concerned about the people involved and want the best outcome. In that case, we need to learn how to overcome conflicts before they escalate. 

22. Yes, It’s Helpful To Have Courage To Live Life By Conquering Your Fears

Do you wish to become your authentic self? Begin by learning how to be courageous. The easiest way to realize your full potential is to live boldly and venture outside of your comfort zone. The problem is that you let your fears impede your success. Alternatively, you may avoid changing your life because of anxiety about the unknown. It’s time to conquer those fears.

Fear is part of the human experience.  It’s how the egoic mind keeps you safe from the unknown. However, living in a constant worry about the “what-ifs” can stifle your progress both professionally and personally. So how does fear disguise itself in your life?

• Does it show up as anxiety about the future?
• Or are you depressed about the past?
• Are you angry, which is fear turned inward?
• Does doubt, or fear of deciding plague you?
• Or is comparing yourself with others how your ego keeps you stagnating?
• Do you allow shame to keep you silent and perpetuate your fears?
• Is the fear of failure keeping you from taking any action?
• Does the fear of loss have you holding on to things and mindsets that no longer serve you?
• Or are you afraid of being rejected by others so you’re not willing to make authentic connections?

Did you see yourself in any of those descriptions? When you’re scared, any movement forward is more difficult because the fear makes you retreat to the safety of your comfort zone.

23. Actually, You Do Have The Ability To Live A Powerful Life

Many people think they are unimportant.  That your life isn’t as significant as another’s because you are allowing your egos to compare. But the truth is, your life is just as vital as someone else’s.  It doesn’t matter what any one person does, it’s the ability of each person to do their part so globally it all works together. So, you are living a powerful life with meaning.  You are worthy just as you are and what you do is important.

Maybe the issue is that you aren’t taking responsibility for the role you play in the world.  Perhaps you believe the lies of the ego that self-care is selfish. Or you’re too busy, too tired, or too numb to see how truly powerful you are and how you belong in your community doing the work you do. The egoic mind doesn’t want you to believe in your power.  It wants to keep you fearful so you do things in a small, powerless way and allow it to maintain its fearful control over your life. 

See, if you believe you can live a powerful life, then you can conquer your fear and believe in miracles. You then have faith in yourself and trust those people in your tribe to assist you in seeing alternative perspectives. And you take responsibility for all aspects of your life, including your missteps. This is the ultimate fear of the ego, that you realize your limitless power and potential.

24. It’s Powerful To Live Bravely By Being Assertive Yet Kind

Are you able to be firm with others? Do you understand what assertiveness entails? I define assertiveness as the ability to express your thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and rights honestly without causing yourself undue concern. It means you can assert your truths by expressing your opinions, emotions, and beliefs in an open, honest, and acceptable manner, while always respecting other people’s views, feelings, and beliefs.

I’m sure your parents taught you that you should try to please others or defer to their needs. Or that it wasn’t nice to put your wishes ahead of others. Your egoic mind doesn’t want to “make waves,” so if someone says or does something you don’t like, you should just be quiet, let it go, and try to avoid that person in the future. These non-assertive behaviors were taught to you as a child so you would conform and be “acceptable” to others.

The issue with being passive is you feel you have no sense of control over your life.  You become resentful and frustrated that you give in to others, and yet don’t feel that others reciprocate.

Most people find it easier to be forceful with a stranger than with someone you care about who can become annoyed if you reveal your true feelings. However, the more important the relationship is to you, the more firm you should be. Assertive behaviors earn you respect from others, as well as their readiness to regard you as dignified, worthwhile, and authentic.

25. How To Take Action Now To Transform Your Life To Be Authentic

Many want to alter some aspect of their life. But the idea of transformation can seem daunting. Why? Because it involves changing what’s routine for the egoic mind to deal with the unknown.  Or maybe you think you’re too old and set in your ways to transform your life.  This would be a lie of the ego to keep you small and not create a new chapter in your life.

Humans are meant to thrive, not just survive. And all you have to do to make a change is to choose to alter your mindset and take bold action. Do you want to re-write the next phase of your life instead of allowing your egoic mind to be in control? If so, then you need to take responsibility and do the work for transformation to occur.

Alter your perception that transformation is scary and instead see it as an exciting opportunity to be more intentional in what you do and how you do it. It’s an occasion for growth in all areas of your life. You are the one with the power to choose a different way of living or to continue to allow your ego to keep you fearful and just getting by instead of living purposefully.

Transformation involves making significant and lasting changes by altering your thoughts, words, actions, and beliefs. The adjustments first occur mentally and spiritually, the inner self, before your outer world can change. Transformation is inner work.

26. Clearly Noticing Your Stress Triggers Will Actually Help You Relax

Life frequently pulls you in multiple ways at once, which can trigger stress. You may think about how to finish a project for work, what to make for dinner, or when to pick up the kids, all at the same time. This stress can cause your emotions to overwhelm you, overburden your thinking, and cause you to react negatively or simply shut down. It’s critical to stand back in these stressful situations and consider how you got here.

27. Why You Need To Understand Emotional Triggers To Stop its Influence

The many life events that are taking place influence all of your feelings. Life events of any complexity can set up emotional triggers in people. Simply seeing the news on television or the loud sounds in your neighborhood can cause an internal emotional reaction. Your present thinking will determine how you respond to each of these triggers. Any phrase, person, circumstance, or experience that sets off an immediate emotional response is referred to as a trigger. It’s like getting startled by a noise: The trigger is the noise, and the reaction is to be startled.

28. Don’t Let Memory Triggers Make You Feel Powerless In How You React

It’s wonderful to remember emotional memories of passionate, unadulterated love, accomplishment, or delight experienced at a momentous occasion. You may reflect on the past in your daydreams to recreate a pleasurable memory. Or it can bring back memories of the heat of rage or the agony of loss. It might be joyful or painful when a specific stimulus—a circumstance, an event, a person, or a thought—activates an emotional memory. For instance, a particular day could bring back painful memories. So as that day approaches, memories of the loss frequently become present in your mind.

29. Trauma Triggers Take Time To Overcome, But You Have The Power To Do So

Something has triggered you and your heart is pounding, your hands are sweating, and your mind is racing with anxiety. Trauma triggers can have a negative impact on your life, but you can lessen it by preparing for them and having a variety of tactics at the ready to manage them. Understanding how to deal with trauma triggers is a critical component of recovering from trauma.

30. Being Able To Take Chances Is A Part Of Fearless Living

You cannot go toward your goals because of your fear of failing. You prevent yourself from revealing your authentic self because of your fear of being rejected. You repeat the same actions that keep you feeling trapped in a life you don’t want because of your fear of change. You can only truly experience all that life offers when you overcome your fear by taking chances.

31. To Overcome Fear You Need to Speak Boldly But With Kindness

Whether in a one-on-one setting or a presentation, I’m working on speaking boldly. In the past, I’ve frequently softened my statements to appease others. I’m not alone either. Many of the clients I work with worry about being bold. As a result, their message is so watered down that it does not influence their listeners. It’s time for everyone to develop a daring mindset to speak boldly.

32. Yes, Have the Courage To Live Life The Way You Want To

Too often, you don’t do the things that allow you to live your life the way you want. It’s simple to feel conflicted about whether you should pursue your aspirations or take the safest course. But consider this. The safest route isn’t necessarily the best choice. Although you intend to do so, it isn’t always simple to focus your attention on what really matters, listen to the whispers of your heart, and let the rest go. You can purposely and deliberately go toward a flourishing and meaningful life by setting some modest goals and making baby steps toward doing more than merely daydreaming about living the way you desire.

33. How To Empower Yourself To Fearlessly Live Out Your Dreams

Living your dream life takes effort to make it a reality. Your ideal life will be distinct from someone else’s in several ways. For some people, loving their life involves having a job they enjoy or having the ability to achieve a state of flow while working. Some define success as having a solid social network, a loving family, and good physical health. Your life should be one that you believe to be satisfying, purposeful, and full of meaning. The life you lead does not need to be unsatisfied just because you aim for bigger things.

34. It’s Helpful To Realize That Control Is A Lie The Ego Uses To Hinder You

Why do you accept the lies your ego presents when life doesn’t go your way or seems out of control? I’m not good enough; there’s something wrong with me; I can’t do it, etc. These lies of the ego are used to control you and are what cause you to feel bad about yourself. In order to relieve your mind of this, the ego helps your impressionable mind concentrate on something you have control over – yourself. If you were the reason, then you can take action to change that.

35. Why It’s Vital To Handle Intrusive Thoughts And Ways To Overcome Them

Are consuming thoughts typical? It’s normal to experience an intrusive thought. Practically everyone experiences it. In a 2014 study, they discovered that 94% of participants had experienced at least one intrusive thought in the three months before the study. Intrusive thoughts that bother you are uncommon, yet occasionally they can interfere with your life. Stuck thoughts are ones that generate a lot of distress and are unwanted intrusions.

36. It’s Vital To Surrender To What Is To Live A Peaceful Life

No practice is more potent or profound than surrender, which sits at the center of all spiritual paths. But what exactly does surrender mean? Too frequently, surrender is misinterpreted, reduced to a few affirmations about letting go, and then misapplied as a self-help guideline. However, because of your misunderstandings and attempts to practice surrender using your thoughts, you deprive it of the genuine marvel that it is.

37. Yes, You Can Live Life with Authentic Self-Control Of The Egoic Mind

While moderate self-control helps you succeed, exercising it excessively can be bad for your relationships and health. High levels of self-control may have downsides in a variety of emotions and a propensity to overwork, according to some studies. Like most good things, an excessive amount of self-control may be harmful to your health and relationships. But you may use the power of restraint to strengthen your feeling of purpose by striking the correct balance.

Moving Forward

Now that you know how to overcome your limiting beliefs, you can awaken your awareness and release the fear of the egoic mind.  Inspiring yourself to develop your life and expand your mind as you mature.  As your authentic self journeys through this world, successful living is easier to achieve, and you can make genuine connections with others. 

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Overcoming Limiting Beliefs, A Comprehensive Guide

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Fear is based on the ego's ability to keep you stuck in believing lies. You can overcome limiting beliefs of the ego; here's how.

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Terri Kozlowski

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Kozmic Soul Solutions LLC

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