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Four Learn-able Behavior to Increase your Success & Happiness!

Optimism: the Most Important Quality

In a long term study at the University of Pennsylvania, summarized by Martin Seligman in his book Learned Optimism was able to determine that optimism is the most important quality you can develop for personal success and happiness. Optimistic people are more effective in almost every area of life. Why you ask…because optimists approach the world with gratitude and hope rather than fear and regret.

Optimists have four special behaviors, which can all be learned through a conscious and daily practice. Let’s look at these behaviors:

Learn to Look for the Good

First, optimists always look for the good in every set of circumstances. Is the cup half full or half empty?  Focusing on the positive instead of the negative a person can be more joyous and people will want to be around you.  How often do you like spending time with someone who is always negative?  An optimistic person will always find the blessing in any situation for which to be grateful. Learn to look at the positive side of life.

Search for the Lesson

Second, optimists always search for the important lesson in each setback. They’re thankful even for hardships, interpreting difficulty as instruction rather than obstruction. When they have a difficult time they are not thinking “why me” they are looking for the lesson they are supposed to learn.  Life is a school in which each day we are given opportunities to learn.  Sometimes we can learn a lesson easily but sometimes we need to be hit hard to learn a lesson. The choice is yours but all lessons are repeated until learned so it is better to start looking for the lesson you are to learn at each stumbling block before it becomes a mountain we have to climb. 

Learn to Seek the Solution

Third, optimists are constantly seeking a solution to all difficult circumstances. Instead of blaming others or complaining about the situation (which accomplishes nothing but adding to the negativity in the world) when things don’t go the way they want, they take action in the hopes of improving their situation. Optimists are solution oriented.  They ask questions like, “What’s the answer? What can we do now to make this better? What’s the next step?” They take lemons and make lemonade. Are you doing okay “under” the circumstances?  Optimists are the ones getting dirty and climbing to the top to overcome the circumstances. They learn to search for the solutions.

Focus on Objectives

Fourth, optimists think and talk continually about their objectives and aspirations. They are hopeful and expect that tomorrow will be better than today, they are future-oriented rather than backward-looking. They have high expectations.  They are focused on what they are going to do, where they are going and how they are going to get there.  They constantly want to learn and improve themselves, the current situation, and the organizations they are associated.  They are always moving forward.

You have a Choice

Are you facing the world with fear and regret… or are you find the blessings and the lessons while overcoming your circumstances as you improve your perspective and are moving forward?  Face the world with gratitude and hope…the choice is yours.  Choose wisely.  Choose happiness!

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