Terri Kozlowski
Always Moving Forward
Always Moving Forward
My biggest tip for indulging in self-care, based on my personal experience, is to tidy up your personal space and thinking. This is because organizing even a small area around me instantly makes me feel calm. I sense an increase in my energy, creativity, and happiness. According to psychology, once your environment is structured, your thoughts will follow suit. Outer order and inner peace go hand in hand.
A messy environment is a major source of distractions, which make it a contributor to decreased focus, increased anxiety, and decreased productivity. Messiness causes stress.
According to the ancient Chinese philosophy of Feng Shui, an important source of your negative feelings and laziness to be stagnant energy, or Si Chi. A congested environment, disorganization, sharp objects, and obstructing constructions energize the Si Chi. By organizing your area, allowing fresh air into your home, and engaging in a few additional practices, you can transform this negative energy into the beneficial Cheng Chi energies, which are positive.
While outer order contributes to inner calm, having inner calm makes it much easier to create outer order. ~ Gretchen Rubin
Having an unorganized space constantly serves as a reminder there is much work to be done. Your productivity will suffer as a result, which will subtly disrupt your inner peace. Saving time, money, and resources is another benefit of having outer order. You feel more energized in an organized environment, so you’re more inclined to choose better habits like exercise and clean eating.
Because your thoughts are organized, you’re more inclined to communicate and express them, which reduce the likelihood that anxiety accumulates. Most people benefit from organization because it guards against negativity, sadness, and feeling overburdened.
Have you heard of the New Caledonia crow, a highly skilled bird that is exceptionally skilled at utilizing tools to catch its prey? The speed with which this bird produces its wonderful tools is astounding. The most amazing aspect is after utilizing, it stores its tools back inside the tree in a safe, fixed location so it won’t get confused when hunting for it again. Isn’t that inspiring?
There are many methods you may use to keep yourself organized. However, not everyone can use every technique. As a result, you must continue to experiment to determine the ideal strategy for maintaining your outer order. Having a spot set aside for each little thing has always worked well for me. Most clutter results from indecisiveness of where to put it. When objects don’t have a location to call home, you find them strewn all over the place.
A place for everything, and everything in its place. ~ Mrs. Beeton
I recently returned from an eleven day vacation to the Farmington area of New Mexico with my husband. We enjoyed walking through the quaint historic districts of Cimarron, Gallup, and Farmington. Visited the ancient sites of Mesa Verde, the Aztec and Salmon Ruins as well as explored the incredible majesty of Monument Valley, Bitsi De Na Zin Wilderness, and Angel Peak Badlands.
A sobering thought occurred to me: How often do you spend the hours of your days expending unnecessary energy to accumulate more memories, more moments, and more objects, just to exhaust yourself as you try to hang onto them? Do you need to add one more thing to your already-excessive wardrobe? Should you start a new side project, or focus more on the one you’ve been tinkering with and putting off for years? Do you need to make new connections, or instead make deeper connections with those you currently know?
The chase to accumulate more leads to disorder. The chase of more results in less—lessening one’s bodily, mental, emotional, and spiritual wealth. Too much of anything tips the scales in favor of tension, which causes you to lose your balance as you become weighed down by the unnecessary weight you are now carrying.
But I’ve learned in the past few years that slowing down can be both mentally and physically energizing in today’s fast-paced society. And in a world that’s becoming more complex, nothing is more comforting to the soul than simplifying your little corner of it.
Truth is ever to be found in simplicity, and not in the multiplicity and confusion of things. ~ Sir Isaac Newton
A multifaceted life is one that is characterized by constant diversion. It becomes apparent when you develop the habit of pursuing more of what you lack rather than completely savoring what you have. Then what happens? You end up spreading yourself too thin by taking on too many inconsistent tasks.
Why do you do this? You drift through life instead of actively rowing your own boat because, deep down, you don’t truly know what you want. You go through life coasting rather than using the wind to your advantage and keeping up with the pace others have set for you that rather than making your own forward progress.
Are you wasting your body’s energy on activities that don’t feed your soul? Then you waste your emotional energy trying to win over people whose morals aren’t even similar to your own. Additionally, you disperse your cerebral resources, making your problems more difficult by giving them too much sophisticated consideration.
As a result, you scatter your energy into pointless events rather than concentrating it toward a purposeful, self-directed goal. It makes sense why over 80% of American and British workers report feeling continually pressured and overwhelmed.
Life is messy. Would that every puzzle piece fell into place, every word was kind, every accident happy, but such is not the case. ~ Christopher Moore
All great intellectuals and philosophers have long advocated living a simple life, but until now, you still strive for a life of multiplicity. You’re seeing more social events, pursuit of more goals, reading more books, and purchases of more stuff. More time to offer to others while robbing time from yourself. You are now consuming more than you are called to generate. And that’s a big issue because production, not consumption, feeds fulfillment or inner peace.
It’s time to shed those unnecessary items in your life. Get rid of your unnecessary material possessions and outgrown clothing. Let go of your emotional baggage and generational patterns of behavior that don’t serve you. Eliminate the friends that exhaust you. Take off the masks and armor and letting go of the absurd impulse to fill your calendar by doing something all the time.
Shedding is more of a rejuvenation process than a process of elimination. It’s more of a method of peeling back the layers to reveal your authentic self. If you don’t remove the things that occupy your attention and cause you to become distracted from your fundamental goal, how else can you reach inner peace?
It is a fact that every 2-4 weeks, humans completely lose their outer layer of skin. Although the shedding of skin is a natural process, you should always ask yourself, what am I consciously shedding today? How have you made your life simpler? How are you creating conditions for inner peace to grow?
You find peace not by rearranging the circumstances of your life, but by realizing who you are at the deepest level. ~ Eckhart Tolle
It’s easy to simplify your life. It involves doing less of the things that don’t matter to you so you have more time and energy for the things that do. And the way to do it is to remember what is important. How do you distinguish between what is essential and what is not? By asking yourself, “Is this necessary?”
Ask yourself, “Is this necessary?” if you feel tempted to buy something or whenever you feel compelled to take part in a social activity that you won’t enjoy. If you’re still having trouble coming up with an answer, consider how this fits into your long-term goals.
The first question is significant since it forces you to think about your priority list right away. It first demands absolute clarity from you regarding what is important to you, and when a problem arises, it returns control to your hands. It serves as a constant reminder that you have a choice.
Only you will value yourself more than anyone else. And only you will place a higher value on your time than everyone else. And for precisely this reason, you must be able to draw boundaries. Saying no to things and people that don’t improve your life or serve you is a skill you must develop. But how would you know what to say no to if you don’t know what your priorities are, what your values are, what you’re striving toward, or where you’re going with your life?
Most of what we say and do is not essential. If you can eliminate it, you’ll have more time and more tranquility. Ask yourself at every moment, ‘is this necessary?’ ~ Marcus Aurelius
It is a rite of passage into a new life to examine your inner self through the process of evaluating how you feel about the possessions you hold, selecting those that have served their purpose, expressing your gratitude, and bidding them farewell. Additionally, evaluating and letting go applies to people, places, memories, and feelings, besides material possessions.
The act of simplifying your life is the most beneficial thing you can do for your inner and outer peace. You won’t be able to reflect or match your actions with your intentions until you make extra time and space.
The antidote to multiplicity is simplicity, because living simply cultivates inner serenity, harmony, and grace. Yes, it’s acceptable for me to gather and bring home souvenirs of my travels. But is it essential? Without a doubt, I’ll discover a lot more love, purpose, and freedom in the thoughtful things that speak to my soul.
Here are three methods you can utilize to create an environment for you to thrive in.
You’ll gain calmness, attention, and motivation by tidying up, which will improve both the present and the future. By purging the past to make a place for a better present, decluttering means preserving just what will serve you and represent you in the here and now.
You can make greater use of what you already have and acquire less in the future when all that’s left are things that are meaningful and useful. You’ll have less remorse over the things you’ve purchased but never used. Additionally, a renewed sense of purpose and opportunity will empower you.
Adopt the proper attitude to realize what you need, like, and use so that you might be liberated from the rest. Making a sensible decision about what to keep and what to throw away is the first step towards organizing your home. You must be alert, not hurried, and not hungry. You might also ask a friend to assist you in deciding what to let go.
You need to regard unfinished projects as clutter. They’re annoying in and of themselves since they exude annoyance and guilt, but they also add to clutter because you frequently keep them in view as a reminder to finish them. You need to choose whether to finish it or simply discard it, clearing your shelves and easing your conscience.
Understand why you want to clean up that area before you begin. With a clear objective, you can make better use of your time and cherish your accomplishments as you go. You should consider whether allowing the clutter to take over your environment is helping you feel better about yourself. Asking the proper questions can inspire you to keep your order and can help you realize what type of order you need to work effectively and completely recharge. By maintaining good everyday habits, you can avoid time-consuming major decluttering.
Careful curation means that my space and my possessions reflect my truest identity. ~ Gretchen Rubin
Considering everything you have to do each day, is order a problem? Frequently, when the mess begins to take over, you say to yourself, “I’m too busy to deal with that now,” and you choose to ignore the problem. Your peace of mind, however, is being impeded by the stuffed and disorder around you.
While chaos is likely to make you feel more stressed, order might raise your self-confidence. Outer order leads to inner peace. Therefore, you can take better care of yourself and others when you are at peace.
I learned that the interior of life was as rewarding as the exterior of life, and that my richest moments occurred when I was absolutely still. ~ Richard Bode
Do you need help to shed those beliefs that no longer serve you? Are you looking for a way to create more inner peace? Do you need someone to help you be accountable during this process? If so, please reach out to me at TerriKozlowski.com and we can create a plan for you to learn to create order in your outer world so you can have inner peace.
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